What daily habit do you do that improves your quality of life?
Self – validation
you asked me what small, daily habit has made the biggest impact on my life, my answer might surprise you: it’s giving myself the validation I used to look for from others
For a long time, I believed that love, recognition, or encouragement had to come from outside of me—whether from a partner, a parent, or a friend. When it didn’t, I felt overlooked, unseen, and not good enough. But I’ve realized that waiting for someone else to validate me is like waiting for rain in a drought: you can’t control when or if it comes.
So instead, I’ve learned to give myself what I need.
Some days, self-validation looks like whispering to myself:
- “I did my best today, and that’s enough.”
- “I’m proud of myself for showing up, even when it’s hard.”
- “My feelings are real, and they matter.”
Other days, it’s simply pausing to acknowledge that I made it through another day, despite the challenges.
This practice hasn’t magically erased my struggles, but it has shifted the way I carry them. Instead of walking through life desperate for someone else to notice me, I’m practicing noticing myself. And that, in turn, helps me set healthier boundaries, trust my own voice, and recognize my worth—whether or not anyone else sees it.
Validation doesn’t always have to come from the outside. Sometimes, the most healing words are the ones you say to yourself.
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